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For many people, it seems like life has two options:
achieving goals and enjoying life. Neither one of them seems as if they are one
hundred percent fulfilled. There seems to be a broad spectrum on the scale of
go-getters and over-achievers versus those who slack in all departments.
How many times have you caught yourself saying
you don’t have enough time or there isn’t enough time in the day? Is this
really the truth? There are many books on the subject of how to be highly
successful as well as how to achieve happiness.
If you’re like most people, you probably think
these notions are for other people, who are super extraordinary, and you feel
that you don’t fall into the mix. Today, the demands of work, career,
education, family, and homeownership seem to take priority over enjoyment.
Relaxation time may be scheduled as a once-a-month outing or even an annual
vacation. However, even those pleasures seem to be filled with work.
There’s planning and scheduling and not enough
time – or so it seems – for downtime. Are you waiting for retirement to enjoy your
life? Many workers feel as though they are waiting for life to happen rather
than creating the life they want.
Do you wish you had more time to achieve goals
and even more time to enjoy life? If so, you are certainly not alone. Here is a
special report on how to prioritize your life and make more time for both
achieving your goals and enjoying your life.
Finding Balance
If you think about life being balanced, you
might envision a seesaw in the position of being directly balanced in the
middle with no ups, no downs, and simply managing to stay in the middle ground. Of course, life doesn’t work like that. There
are ups and there are most certainly downs. Sometimes you might feel as though
you just want to jump off the seesaw and lay on the ground for a little while
just to gain your equilibrium back.
What does it mean to be in balance, if life
has its difficulties? When you are in balance, you maintain your equilibrium
while life’s ups and downs come to visit. Of course, you go through the various
emotions as circumstances both good and not so good work their way through your
life.
However, being in balance means you get to
choose how long you stay in the down position. Of course, realistically, you
can’t always stay up on the seesaw of life, but you can choose how you feel and
what your action steps are going to be while you’re down.
Being in balance means intentionally, no
matter how hard it is, choosing how you will show up under any given
circumstance.
How do you really achieve balance? You can
achieve balance in several ways:
·
Feel your emotions and
move quickly through them – it’s perfectly fine to become emotional when the
roller coaster of life gets too fast and too furious. Feel what you need to
feel but move quickly on to the next step. The next step after feeling is action.
If something doesn’t feel right, chances are it isn’t right. The next logical
step to create more space in your life for fulfilling goals and time for
enjoyment is action.
·
Choose an action step
to recreate the scene. If you’ve lost a job, fire up your resume. If your home
needs a repair, then start asking family and friends for referrals on contractors.
Don’t just sit and stew about what happened, but take the appropriate time to
recreate what happens next. The faster you barrel through the downs of life,
the sooner you can get back up. It’s simply a matter of gravity. Put those feet
on the floor and bounce that seesaw up once again.
·
Don’t regurgitate facts
and stories repeatedly – the more you talk about what happened, how unfair it
was, and what a nuisance it was, the more energy you expend. This energy could
be used for better purposes. You can create an answer to the problem and you
can spend that much more time enjoying your life, setting and achieving goals.
·
If you find yourself
faced with a problem, take the energy needed to create some sort of answer
rather than dwell only on the issue at hand. We all use energy to get through
the day's events. However, we get to choose how much energy is spent on each
project. Look at your life, what is going well? Do you have an amazing
successful career or education? If so, then you might be spending all of your
time and energy in that one area and the rest of your life is completely out of
balance from family to personal relationships.
Sometimes, the unexpected can throw you off. How
do you hit the reset button when life throws you a curve and knocks you off
balance? Sometimes truthfully, no matter how hard we try not to dwell on
something, we fall back into patterns of thinking and talking about something.
What do you do when you can’t get the needle off the record and you are stuck?
Call a friend and get an accountability partner.
Ask someone you know to reroute you when you are
stuck. Ask them not to let you dwell on what happened or what you cannot
control and help you return to present moment status.
Sometimes all it takes is someone to remind
you that, in this present moment, you are fine and all is well. You might not
have the answers to what will happen in the future, but anything is possible.
Make a choice and make some change. If you
really want to achieve your goals and enjoy life to the fullest, you must choose
where your energy will go. Make a choice that seems best at the moment and
follow through with it.
If it doesn’t work out, don’t hold yourself to
task because, in human nature, there is always a choice. You may not like all
the choices, but staying stuck won’t ever work. Make a choice with the
information you have in front of you and take action steps toward that choice.
You will find yourself imbalanced until a more
optimal choice presents itself. At least you are not standing still and you are
taking action steps toward a solution as compared to constantly focusing on or
talking about the problem.
It is okay to be out of balance. Sometimes
there’s a big project at work or a special event at home. You are out of
balance because that event or project takes priority. A special event, like a
wedding for example, takes a lot of time, but it will eventually be over. A
home repair or project will come to completion, as well.
An annual meeting at work will soon be nothing
but a distant memory. Sometimes it’s your season to work like a dog to get the
job done. It’s okay to be out of balance for a while on occasion. Remember,
however, it only takes a few minutes every day to get closer toward a goal. One
small action step is better than no action at all.
It’s perfectly fine to be out of balance due
to a special meeting or function or life event. You can still create a daily
habit of taking one small actionable step toward a personal goal, dream, or
desire.
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